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Can vs Can’t – Possible vs Impossible


It is my opinion, there are four words that are the driving force behind you achieving your ultimate goal and your WHY in life. These four words are the most powerful words that you can and will ever speak to yourself about any situation – “I CAN” and “I CAN’T”, or “It’s POSSIBLE” and “It’s IMPOSSIBLE”.

“CAN” is power and “CAN’T” is retreat. “POSSIBLE” is potential and “IMPOSSIBLE” is no expectation.

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You have the power to decide if you wish to ACHIEVE or RETREAT, live for the possible or live with no expectation. because when you speak victory words such as “I CAN” and possible, you will attain whatever you set out to do regardless of what others are saying to you.

There are many famous entrepreneurs in the world and I can guarantee you that if you spoke with each of them individually, they would tell you that in the beginning of their journey the majority of people told them —-you “CAN’T” do that, it is “IMPOSSIBLE!”

Fortunately, these highly successful entrepreneurs disregarded this advice and listened to their inner voice that said, “Yes I CAN, it is POSSIBLE!”

The key in life is to realize the most important person who speaks to you every day is you – on the inside! You need to review your WHY in Life and see if you are on track toward achieving your WHY, or are you on a detour because someone told you, “You CAN’T, it’s not possible to do that so stop dreaming!” If the latter is you, you need to speak to your inner person and say to yourself, “Today I will take another productive stride!”

Every day for 5 decades plus, each morning, I visualized myself crossing off another CAN and CAN’T on my list. Even today, my personal outcome for each day is to build a community of people who we can inspire and motivate. I have to admit if it was not for my inner person saying, “Chuck you CAN do it! YOU CAN do it!” If he did it, then it is POSSIBLE that I can do it too.

Some days it is still difficult, but I am doing it!

I am personally very proud and appreciative of the people who have stepped up to the plate and made individual contributions of talent over the years to create interesting, important contributions to radio communications, and in these last few years, to the many who have helped those trying to move ahead in a new, digital world.

All of these people have and are dreaming of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn’t fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn’t dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic. This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can’t do this. It’s too hard. It’s too impossible. No one can do this.

If everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

You know the story of the bumblebee. Scientists have studied the bee and have stated over and over again, it is impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Fortunately for the bumblebee no one has told them, so fly they do.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. On a piece of paper write down some goals in your life. Under the heading ‘you know you can do’ list some goals. Under the second heading, ‘you might be able to do’, write the things that you want to try to do. And under a third heading, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers and strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you’ve accomplished them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

Once completed, you will move to the third column, the thing’s you CAN’T accomplish.
As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish.

The impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard, end up disappointed and disillusioned.

If you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to fly to the moon, they would laugh at you, or worse yet – burn you at the stake. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For you to accomplish your dreams, there has to be hard work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a bit more possible.

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How do YOU define success?

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Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.

This really is a great quote. Not only is it interesting but also inspiring.

One of the truths that I find most frustrating as a coach is that many people believe that success, in whatever field of endeavor they are currently striving, is rather like winning the lottery. In fact, it certainly seems from the evidence that they in fact believe that success is even more random because they aren’t even buying a ticket. They are simply passively waiting.

If you listen to people talk you won’t hear many people voicing this opinion of success but look around you and watch what people are actually doing–or rather not doing–and you will quickly see what I mean.

Many people want things–they want to be rich, they want to be at the top of their profession, they want a successful marriage, they want to raise great kids, they want to be respected in their community, and so on.

But what do they do to achieve this success?

Are they working both hard and smart toward their financial goals and living frugally while they do so? Are they constantly learning and striving at their job? Are they showing their spouse love, consideration, understanding, and generosity? Are they spending time with their children both modeling how to be a good person and being generous with their love and understanding? Are they regularly proving themselves an asset within their community by being a good neighbor in every sense of the word?

We all know that we must accomplish these tasks to achieve success in these areas. I’ve probably missed something too. I am hardly a model of success in every area. I would in fact describe myself as fair to middling. I am certainly not rich but the bills get paid and our basics and then some are covered without too much stress. I’m now retired, but my former boss, peers, and subordinates think I am doing a pretty good job as well as I kept getting promoted. While my marriage is in fairly good shape, after 50+ years, but I know I could certainly put more into it. I think I have a great kids, grand kids and great-grand kids.

At the tender age of 18, after graduating from high school, I went to work in radio as an announcer. Commercial radio was 35 years old. Television? Nope. Internet? Double Nope! Radio was it and I decided to set myself on fire and become a success in the business.

Who could have imagined. Not my parents, not my teachers, not even my friends. But I was on fire and for 14 years I played the new music of the age – rock ‘n’ roll. Then I moved into management working up from the bottom and over 10 years went from rock ‘n’ roll disc-jockey to CEO of some of the largest and most interesting broadcast properties.

Why, fire in the belly and passion. I personally was proof that anyone could achieve success and the trappings that come with it.

How do YOU define success?

Is it money, career, love, marriage, family, friendship, respect, community?

For me, success is primarily about love. How many lives do I touch with mine? How many hearts? Who has been changed by my existence in a postive way? I hope that people judge me as a good person and that if I died tomorrow that there would be great mourning.

If we really want this success then we will set ourselves on fire. We won’t wait for spontaneous combustion.

[The quote is by Arnold H. Glasow]

 

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Anything that’s worth doing, is worth doing Poorly

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You read it correctly.

I really am saying that “anything that’s worth doing is worth doing poorly”.

Joachim DePosada said this and I found it on the The Gary Halbert Letter web site:, it struck such a huge cord. It made such immediate sense to me. The more I looked the more I realized that our lives were built around this statement. What about yours?

Go back to when you started to learn to drive. That very first time, you pressed your foot down on the throttle. The engine screamed. You lifted your left foot off the clutch with such panache, and you hurled forward with such velocity, you would have beaten anything animal or human.

Can you drive now?

Or how about the time your Dad told you you could drive the boat. You grabbed the wheel and damn near sank on your first turn. But you corrected, gathered your thoughts and remembered which side was port and which was starboard.

Can you drive a boat now?

I rest my case:

Anything that’s worth doing, is worth doing poorly.

Do you remember the first time you played tennis? Did you really get the serve right first time? Or did you carefully throw the ball in the air throw the racket and miss!!! What about now? Was it worth doing it poorly the first time around?

What happened the first time you strode up with your bucket of balls on the driving range? You put the ball down and swung perfectly and hit it for what 500 yards?????? Or, did you:

  1. miss it completely,
  2. follow through and fall over
  3. take out a good portion of the matting or grass with the shot
  4. hit it with such force it managed a few yards and stopped.

What is all this about?

Reminding yourself that…

Whenever you do something you haven’t done before.
Whenever, you make effort to break an old habit.
Whenever you are going to do something that is worth doing.

The odds are you are going to do it badly.

Don’t give in. You are normal. Don’t listen to that critical voice inside your head that says, “It’s no good. I can’t do it. I will never, ever try again”.

Listen instead to the powerful, self confirming voice that says,
“It’s OK. Remember. Anything that’s worth doing, is worth doing poorly”

So, whether your aim is to give up smoking… diet to lose weight or gain … stop drinking … change your job, learn a language, build a business, be better on-air, a better speaker or writer or whatever it is, accept that you are going to do it poorly at first. Then gradually with practice you will get better and better.

It takes effort to improve yourself. It takes effort to become the best sales person in town. It takes effort to build a successful business. It takes effort to lose weight. It takes effort to follow your dream.

But. If you want to improve yourself! ……..If you want to learn a new skill…….. There is only one way to start … Overcome your need to be right first time and keep practicing.

So whatever you want to do. Whatever you dream of being! Whatever you see yourself doing in five years time. It all starts with making a fool of yourself now. So you might as well get on with it. Go on, go for your dream!

Remember:

Anything that’s worth doing, is worth doing poorly.

I decided to check out other works by Joachim DePosada who was a motivational speaker from Puerto Rico. He wrote some excellent books that I found on Amazon, and so far I’ve read one, and heading into the second. If you’re interested, here’s the links. Don’t Eat the Marshmallow Yet! The Secret to Sweet Success in Work and Life and Don’t Gobble the Marshmallow…Ever!: The Secret to Sweet Success in Times of Change.

 

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